4 Lies to Discard About Overcoming Loneliness.
Remember when we used to celebrate Friday’s? That’s where the TGIF cliché came from. Friday was the day when the work week ended and fun for weekends began.
Now, being home all week, Fridays’ are no big deal. But it was for Jesus. He faced His own Friday attacked by the virus of suffering.
I don’t need to repeat the bloody flogging or the sorrow inexpressible He endured on that Friday. He did willingly for two reasons: That was God’s plan to clean man’s sin. The second reason: He knew the glory that waited for Him in that resurrection Sunday. That Sunday would make it all worthwhile. It would justify the suffering and, for you and me, it made hope come alive.
All that is for us. But why can’t we see it? Why can’t we find the hope in that glory? We can’t because we’re stuck on Friday’s fretting. We relive the heartache. We repeat the sorrow. We’re private in our suffering. And, though we don’t admit it, there’s loneliness in that pain.
How do I know? I was there. When my eyesight was gone, when my youngest son was gone. And when, after decades, my marriage was gone too, lonely nights of heartache became my constant companion.
Are your nights similar to these days? It is for millions. But they, like you, don’t have to be. God made the way to transition from that dark Friday to a Sunday of delicious freedom.
And we can all taste it if we scrape these four lies off our plate:
Lie No. 1: A change in my circumstances will quench my loneliness, give me direction, and provide satisfaction.
God’s truth: “The Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones; You shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail” (Isaiah 58:11).
Changing the circumstance doesn’t alter the longing in our soul. But when we long for God, the water of His Word washes loneliness away. That’s because only God knows how to permanently quench our thirst for companionship. Only He knows the intensity of our lonely moments and has the amount of comfort to ease them.
Lie No. 2: I’ll never overcome the loneliness after the loss of my loved one.
God’s truth: “… as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you nor forsake you. Be strong and of good courage …” (Joshua 1:5-6).
No matter what leaves us—our spouse, our security, our health, or our independence, God’s promise that He’ll never leave us is sufficient to bring back peace.
Lie No. 3: My loneliness will be gone when I’m in the presence of others.
God’s truth: “You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand” (Psalm 16:11).
Whether you’re in a house full of people, or in a house that’s empty and silent, joy shows up chasing loneliness away. It does because it’s in those quiet moments in God’s presence that echo the loud chorus of His love. And around you, He wraps His arms of His constant reassurance.
Lie No. 4: When I fulfill my dreams and make my plans work, the loneliness of disappointment will be gone.
God’s truth: “Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory” (Colossians 3:1-4).
And in the loneliness of broken plans and dreams unfulfilled, God has a promise: “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you” (Matthew 6:33). What He adds is that which He prepared, what He planned and what riches He reserved for you. The heavenly riches that don’t’ bring disappointment. Instead, they exceed all dreams.
The Friday of your pain may be too real to ignore and too painful to dismiss. But God’s promise of a Sunday of glory must silence any bad news, any setback, disappointment or heartache. His glory comes in His victory over a fatigued soul, a worn-out body, and a broken heart. A heart that knows no loneliness, but instead, savors His love, tastes His grace, ends the lies and knows His truth.
Father, I thank you for the freedom for my Friday of pain. I praise You for the promise of Sundays on which I can count on. In Jesus’ name.
Where are you in the transition from Friday to Sunday?