This month's inspiration.
"I hate the thought of Valentine’s candy, I hate flowers and I hate the whole idea,” a friend said to me.
The “hate” part was because of the bitter taste of rejection. It lingered after her fiancé announced he changed his mind and was moving on without her.
And she, too, moves on with heartache. It intensifies during the season where romance and love should fill the air. Women like her often remain under the cloud of heartache. Others squirm with restlessness wondering why the right man hasn’t appeared yet.
Let’s change that. These three simple insights right from God’s Word might transport you to a new level of reassurance.
1. Fear is at the top. Secretly, most women want to be cherished, loved and romanced. But seated on the couch of rejection, we fear that desire will remain empty. Yet God said, He’s the one who shows His love unconditional, true and unfailing.
The first step is to wipe our tears, and accept His love, embrace and count on it. When His love surrounds us, there’s no place for fear, but lots of room for Him to begin His work. And it begins when we obey what He says:
Fear not; for I am with you. be not dismayed; for I am your God: I will strengthen you; yes, I will help you; yes, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10
2. Stop lingering in the past. Looking at what was, what would have been, and what we should’ve done is the perfect way to invite the enemy to add guilt to pain. God has a way to help us put aside the ugly past with this sweet promise.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:18
In the wasteland of our pain, God has a fresh beginning.
3. Know who you are. Rejection often stirs doubt about our identity, our worth and value. But remember, others’ rejection is often God’s re-direction to take us to a new place, a new chapter and even a new beginning. And that new start carries a promise no human can make.
Now to him [Jesus] who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us… Ephesians 3:20
If God's power is at work, we can expect the best. When His love fills our heart, we can become confident. And when His ways and plans prevail, hold on; what comes next will be more than we think or imagine.
The only way to enjoy a man’s romance is to first allow God to romance our heart, to dance into His arms while He plays the melody of His promises.
Here’s a question for you: Whose love are you desiring these days?
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